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Less judgement, more compassion!

Had enough of the working mum guilt trip!

Had enough of the scrutiny about how much time do we spend with our child questions?

Like do we even spend time at the weekends or school holidays with our child? Of course we do, and we would spend even more time if we could, but there is such a thing as running out of leave and money.

Had enough of the judgement, don’t burden your son with money worries, no we don’t, but he needs to know the real world. He cannot have everything he wants, there is no magic money tree, mummy and daddy works not because we don’t want to spend time with our son, but because we need to provide. He needs to know that!

He also knows that some people have it harder in life than we do, and we are lucky and I hope in time we teach our son something called compassion for those that are not as fortunate, not pity, but compassion. I think right now he is too self absorbed to take it in, but he is only 5, but he knows that there are richer and poorer people out there that struggle more.

He also needs to know his outbursts may not be his fault, but they upset people none the less, but will not have him painted as some remorseless monster! He is just a small boy having a difficult time right now and shame on those that judge, when they are suppose to help!

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The night before starting school… again

My son says he is looking forward to going again, so that is something, he is not refusing, yet. To be honest I think he had a meltdown at the end of last term as he just started to get into the swing of going and doing full days, and it ended too soon for him and he didn’t want it to end. However, never received a very good account of what happened from the school. We walked by the school yesterday evening to show him that not much has changed, he knows he will have a different teacher and be in a different class. We will just have to see how he embraces this change and copes.

As for my health kick as kind of ordered by the doctor, I have lost some weight, but not as much as I would like. According to my own scales, it’s about a 6 lb weight loss since I started cutting down on calories about a month ago. However, I had a scan a few weeks ago to see if any abnormalities were causing my recent issues and symptoms, and everything is normal, relief and to be honest had no symptoms for the last month. I would still like to reduce my weight, but I find it difficult to increase my activity during the working week, other than I am using stairs more. I stopped that as I had awful hip pain for over a month from last April and I was told ages ago when I first started to get severe hip pain after the birth of my son, that stairs can make it worse. However, hip pain has settled so starting to use stairs more as long as I do no heavy lifting up stairs I should be fine. I could fit more exercise in the evening, but my son is still an unsettled sleeper and my OH has just started a new job, got a promotion eventually, so not a good time to join a gym just yet as will not commit enough time to it. I have tried to increase steps over our summer break and weekends. Over the holiday I averaged a daily 11,000 steps, but my usual daily average is around 7000 steps per month. In August I managed to increase it to just over 8000 steps for the month, helped by the increased walking on our holiday. Not sure how well I will do this month, find it hard to reach the recommended 10000, although I know it’s a bit of mythical number as some people need more and some less, I am probably one of those people that could do with more though due to my sedentary job and I don’t think my metabolic rate has ever been fantastic. I finally found a jumpsuit to document my weight loss so that will be interesting, sorry more embarrassing ha will this unyummy mummy ever turn yummy? Particularly one that is getting closer to 40 than 30 hehe Don’t worry I am still trying to love myself as I am, but for health reasons and for wanting to be around for my son in a fit state need to try reduce my weight, but we shall see if I can progress with that.